I have a long list of reasons why I’m single, but I’m going to give you the top six. I’ve written in detail about some of this elsewhere, so I’ll keep it brief. Consider this a summary statement. I am not presenting this as an “objective” list of why long-term romantic relationships (LTRs) are “bad.” They aren’t. I’ve enjoyed LTRs, and I’m well aware that most men find great value in them. I…
“In order to be intimate with another, one must first be willing to be intimate with oneself, and any addiction, regardless of what it is, is an avoidance of intimacy with the self.” – Anne Wilson Schaef, Escape From Intimacy. Strangely, romantic relationships can function as an addiction no less powerful than drugs or alcohol. Doubly strange is that many of the people who hold up intimate relationships as the ultimate value in life are…
Welcome to the blog. I’d like to introduce myself, then say a few words about the blog. Who Is This Guy, Anyway? I’m a 59-year-old man who prefers the bachelor life. Although I’ve been married and had maybe a dozen girlfriends, I’ve spent probably 80% of my adult life single, and I like it that way. I love the freedom, the spaciousness, the peace, the learning opportunities, and the ability to chart my own course…