[edit: Some of the women didn’t like this one. I gave a trigger warning, but they still got triggered. Part of that was my fault – I should’ve known better than to post this on female-dominated forums. It went over like a turd in a punchbowl. But let me issue the trigger warning up front: if you get offended when a man discusses his standards for LTRs and assigns low probabilities to the women in…
In this piece, I will cover three additional principles for building self-esteem. If you missed earlier segments in this series, check the menu under “foundations.” The three remaining principles are: Find Meaning Understand Uproot the Negative 1. Find Meaning Bachelors have to find their own meaning, because the sources of meaning that traditional men use are not available to us (e.g., marriage, children, work to support that). We must find meaning off the beaten path. …
Now I’d like to turn to the topic of building self-esteem. After all, if self-esteem is such an essential ingredient of a contented bachelor life, we’d better know something about how to get it.
Many men blunder naively into marriage. They are like greenhorn recruits, wandering blindfolded through a minefield, whistling a happy tune. I need to cover the basics, and it doesn’t any more basic than this: do not get married. Here are 13 reasons. I could name more, but I figured I’d stop at lucky 13. 1. Lethality I try to keep things light, but this one isn’t even remotely funny. After a divorce, men kill…
If you want to get somewhere, you need to deal with the obstacles on the path. Bachelor-shaming is one of the obstacles. It can undermine your ability to live happy and contented bachelor life. It’s worth taking some time to uproot. Shaming attacks rarely come directly, in person. Although occasionally you’ll get some grief from a dipshit online, most of it comes from the surrounding culture – media, Hollywood, etc. It’s a virus in the…