Tag: bachelor life

Prerequisites

Building Bachelor Self-Esteem (Part II)

By Ed Anderson | by Ed Anderson

In this piece, I will cover three additional principles for building self-esteem.  If you missed earlier segments in this series, check the menu under “foundations.” The three remaining principles are: Find Meaning Understand Uproot the Negative 1. Find Meaning Bachelors have to find their own meaning, because the sources of meaning that traditional men use are not available to us (e.g., marriage, children, work to support that).  We must find meaning off the beaten path. …

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Reasons to Fly Solo

Do Not Get Married

By Ed Anderson | by Ed Anderson

Many men blunder naively into marriage.  They are like greenhorn recruits, wandering blindfolded through a minefield, whistling a happy tune.    I need to cover the basics, and it doesn’t any more basic than this: do not get married.  Here are 13 reasons. I could name more, but I figured I’d stop at lucky 13. 1. Lethality I try to keep things light, but this one isn’t even remotely funny. After a divorce, men kill…

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Pitfalls

Shame Busting, Part II

By Ed Anderson | by Ed Anderson

If you want to get somewhere, you need to deal with the obstacles on the path.  Bachelor-shaming is one of the obstacles. It can undermine your ability to live happy and contented bachelor life. It’s worth taking some time to uproot. Shaming attacks rarely come directly, in person.  Although occasionally you’ll get some grief from a dipshit online, most of it comes from the surrounding culture – media, Hollywood, etc.  It’s a virus in the…

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