Stumbling Blocks

“You Will Die Alone”

If you’re single, you will “die alone.”  You’ve probably heard that message, either directly or through the media.  Maybe you’ve conjured up the image yourself: dying alone in a sterile hospital room, lonely and unloved, or dying alone in your apartment, days passing before anyone discovers your body.  Oh, the shame, the post-mortem shame. Years ago, I was on an online forum. I said that I wasn’t interested in getting married or having kids.  Knowing…

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Walking Away

Relationships are Resource Hogs

Most people want to be in a good, healthy, long-term romantic relationship (LTR).  I get it.  I see the appeal.  I’ve been in relationships like that, and I’ve enjoyed them — for a time.  But a decade ago, I decided that I didn’t want to be a part of them anymore – not because I was “hurt,” not because something terrible happened, but because it didn’t seem worth the tradeoff. In the abstract, I want…

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