Pitfalls

You Will Die Alone

If you’re single, you will “die alone.”  You’ve probably heard that message, either directly or through the media.  Maybe you’ve conjured up the image yourself: dying alone in a sterile hospital room, lonely and unloved, or dying alone in your apartment, days passing before anyone discovers your body.  Oh, the shame, the post-mortem shame. Years ago, I was on an online forum. I said that I wasn’t interested in getting married or having kids.  Knowing…

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Reasons to Fly Solo

Relationships are Resource Hogs

Most people want to be in a good, healthy, long-term romantic relationship (LTR).  I get it.  I see the appeal.  I’ve been in relationships like that, and I’ve enjoyed them — for a time.  But a decade ago, I decided that I didn’t want to be a part of them anymore – not because I was “hurt,” not because something terrible happened, but because it didn’t seem worth the tradeoff. In the abstract, I want…

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